Relaxation is to give over your control to nothingness. Those who know how to truly relax can lay back and within a few seconds are in a complete sleep-like or deep meditative state. It is not a mystery or a difficult process and anyone can learn to do it. It does, however, take practice.

Relaxing the body is the easiest part. If you have never tried to completely relax the body, start with one body part such as the arm. Concentrate on the upper muscles, the biceps. Feel them relax. You can feel it letting go. Your arm can be at your side or, if lying down, have the arm in a natural position; concentrate on all the muscles and tendons in the upper arm. Feel them letting go. Now concentrate on your elbow. Feel all parts with your mind. Let it relax. Feel it become comfortable and free. Now concentrate on your elbow. Feel all parts with your mind Let it relax. Feel it become comfortable and free. Now concentrate on the lower arm muscles. Feel all the tension flow into your hand and allow it to keep flowing through your fingers and out your fingertips. This is natural. Our body energies and heat flow from our bodies continually. Relax the wrist and hand and fingers in turn. Sense that total relaxation.

This is what we want the entire body to be like – with all tension released.

Now our thoughts may not be as easy to control but you will have noticed that while you were concentrating on relaxing that arm, your mind was, for the most part, controlled. That is because it had focus. While you do the total body relaxation, your thoughts will be controlled and if you keep your mind on the relaxation, you will be in a meditative type state and some of you will fall asleep. Regardless, in that state, you are in a deep relaxation mode and can recover from tiredness, anxiety or an emotional condition.

Other ways to relax:

  • Lie down and imagine sinking into the couch, floor, bed – whatever you are lying on. Just feel yourself melt into it. Concentrate on the feel while paying attention to your breathing. Feel the flow of air in and out. Notice the rhythm, the depth of breathing, the way you are breathing. When your mind wanders bring it back to focus on the breathing.
  • Focus on a pleasant environment. See it in all its detail: colours, sounds, smells, touch.
  • Think of a walk through a park.
  • When you take that coffee break, really enjoy it. Feel the flavors over your tongue, the smell of the aroma, the warm sensation. Feel the chair you are in and your body settling down.
  • Send happy or healing thoughts out to those around you. Calm soothing thoughts. Imagine them receiving that energy and feeling better about themselves.
  • Go for a very slow walk somewhere where you will not be hindered. Observe everything around you. Notice the sensations of your feet on the ground. Let the sights occupy your mind completely in each moment. Notice how you observe more detail than on a normal walk.

The Brain Will Follow Wherever the Mind Leads

Does this mean our thoughts develop the brain rather than the brain allowing for what thoughts happen? What then is the Mind? Is it a higher consciousness and can we reach enlightenment?

(From “Super Brain” by Deepak Chopra and Rudolph E. Tanzi)

The Present Moment

How do we set aside all the worries and anxieties to enjoy the moment? You simply tell yourself “I’m going to enjoy myself right now” or “I am going to indulge myself in the situation right now.”

When you think about it, why is it that thoughts related to worry, anxiety, embarrassing moments, or what we will have to do tomorrow always come up to the front and occupy “Mind Time”? It is like the reptilian brain is in control – fight or flight.

Intellectually we know that unless we plan to problem solve on the issues in this moment, then there is no point in thinking about them. Thinking without strategy doesn’t solve anything and usually creates more stress by interfering with accomplishing our present interests and takes away from our potential for happiness.

Your mind may also be trying to prioritize. Are you dealing with the issues that need to be handled? If you set deadlines and schedules it helps settle the mind.

We see/hear a lot of people today who seem to have nothing to talk about except their health issues or perceived tragedies they face in life and what’s wrong with the world. In many cases it is a response to their need for attention. That is understandable but the focus needs to change to a more positive process. I, like the majority of people, although having empathy with your situation, have aches and pains and troubling issues too, But somehow we find more enlightening things to talk about.

Is it so hard to focus on the positive rather than the negative? To live in appreciation of what we have rather than the fear of what we might lose?

Ways to settle the mind:

  • Spend time concentrating on the positive things in your life.
  • Make a schedule that you can stick to – not a schedule that is unmanageable.
  • Have a pad of paper and pen beside the bed so if you wake you can deal with the ideas or worries by writing them down.
  • Respond to the unsettling thoughts through immediate appropriate action. You need to be able to release them or they will keep coming back.

A Step Towards Happiness

This entry is a follow up to my last blog. We also have that greater purpose: Our Life Purpose

Why are we here on this earth plane? There must be a reason for my existence. I need to search for the meaning. We all ask the question at some point in our lives wondering if there is a purpose that we must find.

Perhaps the answer is not that elusive. Perhaps the answer is very simple. Perhaps everyone’s reason for existence is to be happy and experience creation. —— To be happy and make others happy without causing harm to ourselves, others and our environment. This is a beautiful philosophy.

That is a simple answer. But achieving this is not so simple. Materialism gets in our way. Others who do not follow this simple philosophy lead or push us from the path. Life situations create confusion in our efforts for happiness.

What if gaining wealth or the desire for new things beyond our means were eliminated from our lives? What if we stopped blaming others for our problems? What if we spent more time remembering good moments and less time dwelling on the bad?

Many of the poorest people in the world are the happiest. Many of the wealthiest never find true happiness. Why is this? What is it that brings sustainable happiness? We need to think in both short and long term paradigms. They must complement one another. Does your day to day enjoyment lead to sustainable happiness throughout your life? That gets complicated We cannot manage our ives in such a predictable way but we can, at least, piece together a beautiful life.

Acceptance and contentment with what we have, who we are, and where we live brings great happiness. This inspires us and we instinctively have goals for helping others and enjoying life. We become more ambitious in our actions and this in turn brings greater awareness of opportunities in our lives for even greater fulfillment.

Take time each day to dwell on the positive.
Do something good for yourself today
Do something good for someone else today
Let the past be the past.

Enjoy each new moment, for the new moments are what will make
your beautiful future.

Expression of Ourselves

Do you respond to situations or do you react to them?

The intellectual brain responds
The instinctive brain reacts

Instinct is the need for  survival
Intellect is the need for meaning
Emotion is the need for response                                  Balance of these is important
Intuition is a connection of value

Our world is designed out of the expression we give each situation. To understand yourself better you need to assess your particular brain priorities.

Stop right now and write down a couple of names of people you would put in each category. What is their dominant brain behaviour? Once you have done this it becomes clear why they are so different from one another. In some instances the people very much complement each other resulting in strong relationships. In other cases, the two people just cannot relate to each other and are constantly in conflict.

In many ways this is no different than the “personality profiling” workshops many of us have experienced in our work situations. These help us understand one another in deeper ways.

What I propose here is that we can choose a new path of life if we want to. The brain allows us to respond according to our thoughts and our beliefs. Our beliefs are always changing based on new information, our thoughts change as a result of all the stimuli we are constantly experiencing. So can our response / reaction patterns. If these change, the way we express ourselves changes and people start to view us differently.

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